What is your biggest struggle with making changes to the way you eat? For me it’s negative self talk and limiting beliefs, the way I communicate internally to myself as well as what I believe to be true about myself. And, let’s be real. Just plain EMOTIONS.
Our self-directed thoughts and emotional state can play a huge role in our decision-making and beliefs about ourselves. And we are not always that kind to ourselves. Am I right?
How can we expect to make impactful changes in our lives if we are not giving ourselves the same encouragement, self compassion and empathy as we would a good friend or family member? (also see my post on motivating yourself with self compassion as oppose to self criticism)
This is why it is super important to be mindful of the way we are talking to ourselves and make a conscious choice to try and change that narrative. Because we deserve it.
Self sabotaging thoughts and ways to reframe them
Your brain might say I can’t eat anything. I feel so deprived and left out.
Try reframing that thought to it’s hard but it’s worth it. Short-term pleasure is not worth sacrificing my long-term goals. I am healing and nourishing my body and letting go of the things that don’t serve my health anymore. I am strong and resilient.
Your brain might say I can’t afford to eat healthy. It’s too expensive.
Try reframing that thought to I’m doing this for my long term health and future. My health is worth investing in and I deserve to feel good. I love my body.
Your brain might say I’m bound to fail. This is too hard. I’d like to eat healthier but I just don’t have the willpower. Maybe I should quit.
Try reframing that thought to I will make mistakes from time to time as everyone does. Nobody is perfect. I will just keep getting back on track and will be kind and compassionate to myself in the process. This is a lifestyle and not a short-term diet.
Easier said than done though, right?
Sometimes we may not pay close attention to our self talk throughout the day. We may not even realize all the limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves. These beliefs may have come from childhood, trauma, or the way others have treated us.
Either way, I believe it’s possible for each and every one of us to heal if we treat ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
My experience with negative self talk and reframing
I was born without my left hand and as you can imagine, I went through years of negative self talk and deceptive brain messages about my worth in relation to my physical appearance.
This kept me stuck for years and kept me self sabotaging all my best efforts.
It’s something I will always have to be mindful, but I have gotten better over the years at loving myself as I am and believing in myself and what I can achieve.
You can too!
My challenge to you
This week I challenge you to try to take a birdseye view of the thoughts that are running through your head and see if you can catch yourself in the act.
Then, without judging yourself for having the negative thought, try to re-frame this thought to a more positive one. Say the positive thought to yourself in your head. It doesn’t even matter if you don’t believe it, just say it. Over and over if you need to.
If you’re not sure what to say, I encourage you to write out all your limiting beliefs or negative thoughts about yourself and then follow each of them up with positive affirmations like these on a piece of paper and carry it with you. Or you can write on sticky notes and place them in places you will see them.
Heck, you can even print off the example ones above! I’ll let you in on a little secret, those are the ones I use for myself.
This exercise can also be done for anything unrelated to food and nutrition as well!
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Tara Klippert is a Registered Health and Nutrition Counselor and holds a diploma in Holistic Nutrition and Health Coaching. Tara helps people clear up cystic acne, balance hormones and blood sugar + improve anxiety and gut health NATURALLY with food.